Monday 31 December 2012

Bye 2012

Only one hour left. One more year is passing away...

No regrets.

Wish new year brings Happiness to all, at least some peace of mind if not happiness.

Sunday 30 December 2012

Be the Change

Now everyone is talking about bringing change to the Justice system in India. Which of course is important. Justice in our country takes so long that it is actually not justice. Things have to be improved a lot here.

One more thing which is important to all of us, is to change ourselves. Lets us all resolve that we will change our mentality. Not all of us are mentally sick to justify a rape or murder or even eve teasing. But most of us are sick enough to ignore what is going around. There are news like when a guy tries to save a girl from eve teasers, the crowd gathers around and see him getting beaten to death and do nothing. In Kolkata a girl is dragged on streets and stripped down by mob, while some onlookers are busy recording the even in their mobile phones. THIS has to be changed, we have to owe the responsibility. Staying silent is also being part of the crime.

I urge to all to change there mindsets. Real men will never tease, hurt or rape a woman. Our ancestors have always taught that real men never raise their hand on a woman. In Mahabharata, the invincible Bheeshma, laid down his life, but did not attack Shikhandi (who was a woman in his last birth). Anyone who did a wrong things to women had been punished severely in all our historical epics. Where is that respect gone now?

Who can dare to tease or hurt a woman, when he has on his mind that every one around him will hit him like anything. There must be Zero Tolerance to any such activity around you. If this happens every Indian woman will have unlimited bodyguards always around her and she will be able to move out without fear. I will once again repeat a famous saying "Only that country is truly free, where a woman can move out alone at night without fear".



Saturday 29 December 2012

She's Dead

She's dead

Sad.. Sad.. very sad,  Mind is numb, unable to think anything.

I am filled with anger and despair. This seems like end of the world. It will be tough to get this out of our minds.

What an irony! In our country we worship women, we have so many female goddess. yet this happened here. We Indians boast all around the world about our rich culture, about how we respect women. We are taught that western culture, western people are bad, our own culture is golden. Today may be I am emotional, but I am unable to find anything good in being Indian. We say we are going to the a world power, but still have problems like these, female child is killed before its born, complete lawlessness. Court cases take years and years for judgement. Jessica Lal was killed in 1999, and judgment came in 2006. Dhananjoy Chatterjee raped and murdered a 14 year old girl in 1990 and he received his punishment in 2004.


"Justice delayed is justice denied". Why is it not understood by the govt and our lawmakers.


For these culprits even capital punishment is not enough, the both hands and legs of the culprits must be chopped off, with "Rapist" marked on their forehead and then they must be left on streets. I would request people not to hurt them, instead feed them and not let them die.

Also all of us must ensure that such a demonic act cannot be repeated ever. We must not bear any such thing going around. We must unite and raise our voice against such mentality around us. This protest must not get cooled down.

May she rest in peace.

Thursday 27 December 2012

New Year Resolutions

Resolution Time. Most of us make new year resolutions some time in life and then by end of the year, do not even remember them. Some try making the resolutions again next year, but again forget by the end of the year.

So, what should be done, Shall we get convinced and not make any resolutions at all, and continue to live our lives as they are?

To be continued...


(I will complete this post on 1st Jan 2013)

:)


Saurabh

Chetan Bhagat

An Inspiring video of Mr. Chetan Bhagat's speech on Project Management and Team Building.-


Tuesday 25 December 2012

Is India a free country?

65 years ago we got independence from British, and it was declared to the world that we are a free and independent country. We now had right to make our laws, make a constitution and follow it to our own sweet will.

But are we actually free in the true sense of the word? All of us are used to the instructions like do not stay outside for long, do not believe any stranger, keep a watch on your luggage and even children, and especially no women must ever do the unpardonable act of staying outside alone in the night, be it a village without electricity or be it the capital city of the country.

In this Delhi Gang-rape case, the fault(sarcasm) of girl was that she took a wrong bus, where the driver and other men on the bus picked them from a bus-stand only. This of course, is perhaps the cruelest act ever reported. The girl is still not out of Danger and we all are praying to god for her safety and good health.

Many debates are going on for deciding correct punishment for these offenders. I truly believe following should be the correct action.

1. The punishment must be severest of all, Especially for the offenders in Delhi gang rape case I strongly recommend chopping of both hands and legs, castration and "Rapist" marked on the forehead. This should be shown on media repeatedly.

2. The moral science should be more than a subject being taught in 1st and 2nd Standard, (Even Moral Science was discontinued from the syllabus about 10-12 years ago, has been reintroduced 3-4 years back only) it has to be brought up on more elaborate and higher platform, plus, all parents along with the safety instructions also teach their sons to respect women.

What I want to emphasize is that we can call ourselves free only if our women can walk at any time during the day or night without any fear anywhere in whole country. I once again pray to god to save the victim girl and give her a good health.


Yours sincerely


Saurabh

Monday 10 December 2012

Honour?? Killing


Recently, this very shocking and horrible news came from Kolkata, India. A 29 Years old man has killed his own sister(22 years old) with a sword and then went to Police Station carrying the sword and the head of his sister to surrender himself.

His reason: - His married sister(who was married at the age of 14) having and affair with someone and thus "Dishonoured" his family.

(http://indiatoday.intoday.in/story/honour-killing-in-kolkata-brother-beheads-sister/1/236866.html)

Such a case is called an "Honour Killing" by the media.

I want to ask what kind of honour has it brought to the family of this boy, should anyone "honour" such a family. How can killing his young and defenseless sister be hounourable?? In my opinion it is purely cowardice on this man's part. It should be called a "Cowardice Murder".

Not only in the above case there are many more examples in India where people have killed young couples, daughters, wives in the name of "Honour killing". Recently a Senior police officer from Saharanpur, Uttarpradesh supporting this "Honour Killing" advised parents of a 14 year old girl who got abducted to kill themselves or kill the girl, this all in front of media. On one side we look forward to see India as a superpower, and on other side, there is still this forest law applicable in the country.

???

yours sincerely

Saurabh

Monday 11 June 2012

Have a heart.....

Dear all,



In an investigation carried out by NDTV, it was found that, nutrition supplements which are meant for malnourished aanganwadi children in Maharashtra are being sold by the middlemen as animal feed to poultry and dairy farms. These government nutrition supplies were meant for children of economically weaker section.


Pathetic is the word for such people, how can anyone steal children's food. No wonder despite of so many government schemes for food for poor, they are still malnourished and underweight children in India. 


This is very disturbing. My heart cries out for these children whose food is being stolen and sold as animal feed. Reportedly Rs.1280 Crore is spent for these aanganwadis in Maharastra alone every year. This kind of money is enough to provide required nutritious food to all the poor children in Maharashtra. 


Please give your comments.


Yours sincerely 


Saurabh

Friday 8 June 2012

Glamour: Tips for a beautiful skin

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Thursday 31 May 2012

Gone are the days.....

This morning when I was surfing the net, I visited a YouTube page showing our old Doordarshan logo being formed slowly, and in related videos many clips of old doordarshan time. This made me remember those days, when there were no mobile, laptops, ipods or ipads, and life was more exciting and still calm and relaxing.


On the same subject some one sent me following words in mail, which I would like to share with you. Hope you will enjoy it.-


Take time to read it patiently, feeling each line, its amazing......

Gone are the days......
 
When the school reopened in June,
And we settled in our new desks and benches.
When we queued up in book depot,
And got our new books and notes.


When we wanted two Sundays and no Mondays, yet
Managed to line up daily for the morning prayers.
We learned writing with slates and pencils, and
Progressed To fountain pens and ball pens and then micro tips.
  
We began drawing with crayons and evolved to
Color pencils and finally sketch pens.
We started calculating first with tables and then with
Log tables and advanced to calculators and computers.

When we chased one another in the corridors in
Intervals, and returned to the classrooms drenched in sweat.
When we had lunch in classrooms, corridors,
Playgrounds, under the trees and even in cycle shed.

When all the colors in the world,
Decorated the campus on the Second Saturdays.
When a single P.T. period in the week's Time Table,
Was awaited more eagerly than the monsoons.

When cricket was played with writing pads as bats,
And Neckties and socks rolled into balls.
When few played "kabadi" and "Kho-Kho" in scorching sun,
While others simply played "book cricket" in the confines of classroom.


Of fights but no conspiracies,
Of Competitions but seldom jealousy.
When we used to watch Live Cricket telecast,
In the opposite house in Intervals and Lunch breaks.

When few rushed at 1:45 to "Conquer" window seats in our School bus.
While few others had "Big Fun", "Chock-o-bar","kulfi ice" and "Pepsi"
At 2:00 Clock.

Gone are the days Of Sports Day, and the annual School Day,
And the one-month long preparations for them.
Gone are the days Of the stressful Quarterly,
Half Yearly and Annual Exams, And the most enjoyed holidays after them.


Of tenth and twelfth standards, when we Spent almost the whole year
Writing revision tests.
We learnt, we enjoyed, we played, we won, we lost,
We laughed, we cried, we fought, we thought.
With so much fun in them, so many friends,

So much experience, all this and more.
Gone are the days when we used to talk for hours with our friends.
Now we don't have time to say a HI.
Gone are the days when we played games on the road.
  
Now we code on the road with laptop.
Gone are the days when we saw stars shining at night.
Now we see stars when our code doesn't work.
Gone are the days when we sat to chat with friends on grounds.

Now we chat in chat rooms.....
Gone are the days where we studied just to pass.
Now we study to save our job
Gone are the days where we had no money in our pockets
and fun filled on our hearts

Now we have the ATM as well as credit card but with an empty heart
Gone are the days where we shouted on the road.
Now we don t shout even at home
Gone are the days where we got lectures from all.

Now we give lectures to all... like the one I'm doing now....
Gone are the days

But not the memories, which will be

Lingering in our hearts for ever and ever and Ever and ever and
Ever.....


No matter how busy you are,
Don't forget to live the life that still exists.
It wont be there for ever.'


Yours sincerely




Saurabh

Sunday 20 May 2012

How to maintain love with parents after marriage? (For Indian Boys)



Dear All,

One of my friends once told me that if you want to increase (or maintain) the love with your parents after your marriage you must live in a separate house, maybe in same city.

My immediate though was "what kind of logic is this". How can our parents love us more, while we cannot be part of their day to day work, they are aged now, and need us more at this point of their life. Our parents have done a lot for us, and it is the time for us to repay.

With time, after facing some situations I could see some logic in my friend’s words. I also remembered an old saying which goes like "Distance makes the heart grow fonder". Actually I realized that staying too close for too long may actually damage the relation, I guess it applies in all relations. Even my dog loved me more when I came back from a long tour. Considering these, I think my friend was right, it do seem that some distance is healthy and we must get separated to preserve the love with our parents.

However I still have some hitches in mind:-

1. How can we take care of our parents when we are away, we may be in the same city but sometimes and emergency gives lesser time than time we may require to reach our parents

2. Isn't there a risk of losing any love which is still left. I think yes

3. To whom will we turn during some common tiffs between husband and wife? Without control they may aggravate to serious situations?


There are no easy answers. Like I do for all my problems, I googled (Searched on Google) "How to maintain love with parents" and found some interesting advices, there was one from Reader's Digest website(http://www.rd.com/family/maintain-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-parents/). They have suggested a) considering your parents as fellow adults, like your friends, b) Keep your sense of humour c) Tell them what bothers you and most interesting d) Don't ask your parents advice unless you really want it.

Okay, we can consider our parents as friends, what if they do not let us do so, and take anything we do with this regards as an insult? What if, our sense of humour is not well taken by them? and What if they expect us to take advice in every small matter (like if you should order samosa or not?..:) etc.) or they keep giving their advice in each matter without asking for it, and feel insulted if we do not take their advice?

I feel after a certain age our parents actually become like little kids, only way more stubborn and difficult to deal with.


So overall the issue remains unsolved.

I wish to know how common are these differences with parents in our country? Are you facing it? What is the best solution to these situations?

Please give your views.

Yours sincerely


Saurabh



Thursday 22 March 2012

Busy at Work

Dear Readers,

Sorry for not updating since last three weeks. I am going through some busy and hectic phase on my profession front.

Shall be back soon with more interesting posts.

Thanks


Saurabh

Tuesday 6 March 2012

Life is like a Pineapple


Today I bought a pineapple. Of course I have had this fruit many times and I like it, it tastes good and is an excellent source of manganese and Vitamin-C, but today I tried cutting it myself for the first time. 

As expected, it was really difficult (for me) to peal this tasty fruit properly. I found that it is almost impossible to separate the prickly fiber from delicious soft edible part, more I tried to separate prickly part, more I lose sweet edible part and finally I had to eat some prickly fiber along with the sweet fruit. Also, the fruit closest to the prickly part is sweetest.

This pineapple actually gives us an insight about our life. As sweet part cannot be separated from prickly part of pineapple, similarly in our life the good part, our happiness, enjoyment, amusement, cannot be separated from its hardships, failures (life's prickly part) and sorrows. And when we are going through a hardship, it also means the sweetest fruit (our happiness) will be lying next to it. The more hardships we have more will be happiness. The good parts mostly come with something we do not like, for example Morning Jog for a healthy body, day and night study for that one exam and so on. But if we learn how to deal with the bad part, we can really enjoy the fruit of life.

This is applicable on our relationships too in most cases, there are always some characteristics/habits of our loved ones which we do not like and we want to remove those disliked characteristics and change  the person to all good (for us). And no one is actually always all sweet. Like pineapple, if we keep trying to separate the bad part from good, we might end up losing all the good part too.

So whenever you are not happy, facing a hardship, think of pineapple. And when your close one is sometimes not behaving as you like, think of it as the prickly part, which will definitely be surrounded by the sweet fruit, the things you like.

Wish you all happy eating and happy living.  :)

Tuesday 28 February 2012

Our TV Serials


Dear All,

There are too many TV Serials these days. Some of the basic concepts followed by most of them are.-

1. Ladies in rich Indian families always keep makeup and Jewellery on, even while sleeping.
2. There is at least one goody-goody girl/auntie who is extremely dutiful, very innocent, very kind and helpful, always forgiving. In short, having all the positive qualities one can imagine. (Almost impossible to find in real life)
3. One Vamp who keeps making plans to hurt the good one.
4. Tears, lots of tears, Bhu whoo hooo... :'(
5. There is a minimum 15~20 seconds (Sometimes up to a minute) gap between dialogues, while Camera keeps panning here and there.
6. Good one will always cry more (almost always)

Another mentionable thing about our TV Serials is, even if you miss a few episodes, no need to sweat, there will never be any progress in Story.  I have heard for some of the serials the story is decided just a day before its shoot.

STILL, our women adore these hopeless TV Serials  and I am unable to understand why.

Please give your comments to help me understand.

Yours sincerely

Saurabh



Monday 27 February 2012

Indian Hockey Team

What a great performance by Indian Hockey team yesterday. It was a delight to watch India beating France 8 to 1.

However, it is saddening to know that our National Hockey Team players are paid very low, Even in London they will be paid only $50 per day, whereas our cricket players are paid huge sums even for loosing or even not playing. It's not that I have anything against Cricket, I have enjoyed some great moments of Cricket along with rest of the country. But I think we have not been fair to Hockey at all.

Today even a child can tell names of all players in Indian Cricket team, whereas it is difficult to find any one who can tell names of our Hockey players. Kids know all the rules of cricket by heart, but not many will have same knowledge about Hockey

What is the reason? Why are we all so biased towards Cricket? And what's wrong with Hockey?

I propose lets all give Hockey a fair chance, and try to know the game again, We have won the Olympics Gold in hockey 8 times, which is highest till date. We still have it in us to become world champions of Hockey. Let's tell this to everyone.

Chalo "Fir dil do hockey ko"


Yours Sincerely

Saurabh

Bookworm

Hi.. I am a new Writer, Starting today only.

When I was a teenager, I used to be a great Bookworm, spending about 90% of my free time reading books, mostly fiction as it took me to another world and I was loving it. But now, few years and one marriage later, I actually lost it, No stamina to sit and read for more than fifteen minutes. I became one of those, love-to-buy-books-and-never-read types. I even prefer to watch TV or Sleep rather than read the book I got myself with so much love and excitement. Somewhere inside I always know that this lazy bastard is not me... ever. So with plans to kill this lazy bastard, and resurrect the real me who loves to read and write. I am starting this blog.

To share with you, I recently researched the great epics of Mahabharata and Ramayana  (on Wikipedia). I am amazed to note the detail and precision in these stories, how all the curses and vows were planned and executed. I wonder if any of today's writers can write anything this great. Not that I have not seen both epics on TV, but I was only seven or Eight years old, all I remembered were the cool camera effects used to show the war with Magical Arrows.

Anyways, I request those who can, to please give me some tips, as how can I bring the writer inside me out.

Yours sincerely,

Saurabh