Gone are the days.....

This morning when I was surfing the net, I visited a YouTube page showing our old Doordarshan logo being formed slowly, and in related videos many clips of old doordarshan time. This made me remember those days, when there were no mobile, laptops, ipods or ipads, and life was more exciting and still calm and relaxing.


On the same subject some one sent me following words in mail, which I would like to share with you. Hope you will enjoy it.-

Take time to read it patiently, feeling each line, its amazing......

Gone are the days......

 

When the school reopened in June,

And we settled in our new desks and benches.

When we queued up in book depot,

And got our new books and notes.

When we wanted two Sundays and no Mondays, yet

Managed to line up daily for the morning prayers.

We learned writing with slates and pencils, and

Progressed To fountain pens and ball pens and then micro tips.

  

We began drawing with crayons and evolved to

Color pencils and finally sketch pens.

We started calculating first with tables and then with

Log tables and advanced to calculators and computers.

When we chased one another in the corridors in

Intervals, and returned to the classrooms drenched in sweat.

When we had lunch in classrooms, corridors,

Playgrounds, under the trees and even in cycle shed.

When all the colors in the world,

Decorated the campus on the Second Saturdays.

When a single P.T. period in the week's Time Table,

Was awaited more eagerly than the monsoons.

When cricket was played with writing pads as bats,

And Neckties and socks rolled into balls.

When few played "kabadi" and "Kho-Kho" in scorching sun,

While others simply played "book cricket" in the confines of classroom.

Of fights but no conspiracies,

Of Competitions but seldom jealousy.

When we used to watch Live Cricket telecast,

In the opposite house in Intervals and Lunch breaks.

When few rushed at 1:45 to "Conquer" window seats in our School bus.

While few others had "Big Fun", "Chock-o-bar","kulfi ice" and "Pepsi"

At 2:00 Clock.

Gone are the days Of Sports Day, and the annual School Day,

And the one-month long preparations for them.

Gone are the days Of the stressful Quarterly,

Half Yearly and Annual Exams, And the most enjoyed holidays after them.

Of tenth and twelfth standards, when we Spent almost the whole year

Writing revision tests.

We learnt, we enjoyed, we played, we won, we lost,

We laughed, we cried, we fought, we thought.

With so much fun in them, so many friends,

So much experience, all this and more.

Gone are the days when we used to talk for hours with our friends.

Now we don't have time to say a HI.

Gone are the days when we played games on the road.

  

Now we code on the road with laptop.

Gone are the days when we saw stars shining at night.

Now we see stars when our code doesn't work.

Gone are the days when we sat to chat with friends on grounds.

Now we chat in chat rooms.....

Gone are the days where we studied just to pass.

Now we study to save our job

Gone are the days where we had no money in our pockets

and fun filled on our hearts

Now we have the ATM as well as credit card but with an empty heart

Gone are the days where we shouted on the road.

Now we don t shout even at home

Gone are the days where we got lectures from all.

Now we give lectures to all... like the one I'm doing now....

Gone are the days

But not the memories, which will be

Lingering in our hearts for ever and ever and Ever and ever and

Ever.....

No matter how busy you are,
Don't forget to live the life that still exists.
It wont be there for ever.'

Yours sincerely




Saurabh

How to maintain love with parents after marriage? (For Indian Boys)

Dear All,

One of my friends once told me that if you want to increase (or maintain) the love with your parents after your marriage you must live in a separate house, maybe in same city.

My immediate though was "what kind of logic is this". How can our parents love us more, while we cannot be part of their day to day work, they are aged now, and need us more at this point of their life. Our parents have done a lot for us, and it is the time for us to repay.

With time, after facing some situations I could see some logic in my friend’s words. I also remembered an old saying which goes like "Distance makes the heart grow fonder". Actually I realized that staying too close for too long may actually damage the relation, I guess it applies in all relations. Even my dog loved me more when I came back from a long tour. Considering these, I think my friend was right, it do seem that some distance is healthy and we must get separated to preserve the love with our parents.

However I still have some hitches in mind:-

1. How can we take care of our parents when we are away, we may be in the same city but sometimes and emergency gives lesser time than time we may require to reach our parents

2. Isn't there a risk of losing any love which is still left. I think yes

3. To whom will we turn during some common tiffs between husband and wife? Without control they may aggravate to serious situations?


There are no easy answers. Like I do for all my problems, I googled (Searched on Google) "How to maintain love with parents" and found some interesting advices, there was one from Reader's Digest website(http://www.rd.com/family/maintain-a-healthy-relationship-with-your-parents/). They have suggested a) considering your parents as fellow adults, like your friends, b) Keep your sense of humour c) Tell them what bothers you and most interesting d) Don't ask your parents advice unless you really want it.

Okay, we can consider our parents as friends, what if they do not let us do so, and take anything we do with this regards as an insult? What if, our sense of humour is not well taken by them? and What if they expect us to take advice in every small matter (like if you should order samosa or not?..:) etc.) or they keep giving their advice in each matter without asking for it, and feel insulted if we do not take their advice?

I feel after a certain age our parents actually become like little kids, only way more stubborn and difficult to deal with.


So overall the issue remains unsolved.

I wish to know how common are these differences with parents in our country? Are you facing it? What is the best solution to these situations?

Please give your views.

Yours sincerely


Saurabh