Inside the heart

People, people people, there are people everywhere, especially in our country with huge population. We like some, dislike some, hate some, notice some, ignore some and love some. But how do we decide whom to like, dislike, love or hate? by looks

Someone told me that person must be good at heart to love or like them, whatever the looks may be, and if he/she is not good at heart, then he/she is not ok, simple. Agreed. But the real question is how do you know what is inside someone's heart? Is there any concrete method to find out? Can anyone help?

Need some replies...

to be continued...

My First Day at School

The above is picture of  a gate. This gate brings back so many beautiful memories of my School Life. Have passed from this gate for 10 years, from my childhood to adolescence. Still have a faint memory of my first day in this School. My father dropped me up to the classroom. That was the only time when he had entered my school building in those 10 years. Some of the kids were crying around when their parents were leaving them. I was little nervous but did not cry. My bench-mate on that day was a girl, with whose name my parents teased me for several years. I borrowed an eraser from her on same day.

How much do you remember from your first day at School?

Free Love - Last one

True Love

(This post is related to my earlier posts)

So should we love or not? Someone's hurt, someone's lost his life, someone does not care and someone had to compromise with her identity for the sake of love only. Then why must you love?

By all means love is must for us. For without love we are worthless, no matter how successful we are. When we are having a difficult time, a little bit of love can give us incredible amount of hope. Life becomes beautiful when we are in love. Isn't it?

The biggest mistake which most people do when they get love is they try to possess it, demand it and expect.  Love is like water, if you keep some in your open palm, it will stay there, but if you try to close your finger and try to possess it, it will seep out immediately. This sounds very easy, but it is difficult to practice. We have to learn to feel no expectations from ones we love, and yet unconditionally care. True love is unconditional. With no expectations you are free to love anyone.. :) Agree?

Free Love 4

Love

One more love story... of Ajay and Rhea.

Ajay was sitting with his friends at local Barista. They were chatting and enjoying their cappuccinos and Cafe lattes. There was a group of girls sitting near them. One of them, a very glamorous looking girl, caught Ajay's attention. She was wearing a short dress, with long boots and was pretty too. In short she was fashionable, beautiful. Their eyes met several times, and while leaving that girl smiled at him, like she knew what her effect on Ajay was. Ajay could not have even thought about getting a girl like her, but her smile gave him some confidence. He still did not know her name, but already started dreaming about her. He wanted to see her again and talk to her.

He kept visiting same Barista consecutively for next few days expecting to see that girl again. And he succeeded. She came to same Barista and noticed Ajay. This time Ajay introduced himself and chatted with her. Her name was Rhea. They had similar interests, both were outgoing persons, both liked travelling. Everything seemed perfect. They started meeting regularly. Before they knew, they were in love with each other. Ajay had proposed to Rhea and she agreed. He had never expected that a girl like Rhea can become his life partner. He was on cloud-nine the day when Rhea said yes. As their relationship matured, they planned to take it to the next level, Marriage. Fortunately parents of Ajay and Rhea also approved of their relationship and they got married.

Now after six months of marriage Ajay was changed. He still loved her a lot. He took good care of her. But he instructed Rhea on everything, from what to wear to where to go, whom to meet. He did not let her be like the outgoing sophisticated girl she used to. She had to dress conservatively, as per Ajay's choice and approval. Ajay did not approve of her meeting her male friends, even those who were her friends before her marriage to Ajay. Rhea was disappointed with the way things turned out. She tried to explain this to Ajay, that she was still the same girl whom Ajay liked and loved, but Ajay did not understand. She remained frustrated for some time, but later on compromised with herself to save her marriage and changed in to what Ajay wanted.
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Is Rhea's compromise a good step?
In your opinion, can such a compromise work?
If not, what else could she do, considering she still loves Ajay?

Free Love 3

Love

Love research continues

From previous two cases, it seems that love is really a terrible thing. We must stay away from it as far as possible. Let us see one more example.-

One of my friends once fell in love with this girl. After going out together for some times, my friend confessed his love to that girl. Their conversation went like this.-

'I think I am in love with you,'My friend said to that girl.
'Oh really,' girl replied smiling.
'Yes, I think I am a different person I am with you. Life seems more interesting when I am with you'
She kept smiling, not saying anything
'So? what do you say about it, 'My friend continued
'So what?' She looked amused by my friend's confession.
'I mean do you love me too?' 
'Of course, I love you too'
My friend's irritation increased.
'Yaar, I have put my heart forward to you, and you are taking it so lightly. I am serious'
'It is not like that, I am also serious.  I love you, I have loved you since I saw you first time.'
Now my friend was more confused than irritated.
 'Are you pulling my leg now, first you stay totally indifferent to my confession of love, then you say you loved me since you saw me first time'
'No no, seriously, I love you, but it is not such a shocking thing for me, I have fallen in and out of love so many times, it happens. love is not something to be taken seriously'

My friend did not understand the concept of what the girl was saying. But he was happy to be with her and enjoyed her company. They were more comfortable with each other after the confession. They stayed together for sometime, till she had to go abroad. They kept in touch through mails, Facebook and occasional phone calls. After some time, my friend fell in love with another girl. He told me that he loved both of them. First girl also knew it and was happy for them.

These examples may not be from real life, but are very well inspired from real life events, and I am sure most of us will be able to relate such events where someones misses a loved one so badly that he is not able to love anyone else in the world and where someone who is not able to get the loved one looks to end his/her life. But very few with be able to relate to this example where both loved each other and even if they are not together they were happy.  This one is rare and strange. Isn't it?

Free Love 2

Love

Continuing my research on love. Lets us take another example.

A beautiful girl once fell in love with a boy who was her friend. She felt very good with him. Very soon, they started meeting regularly, went to movies together, were always seen together everywhere they went. They both confessed their love to each other. Both were very happy with each other. Boy took very good care of her, he made sure she was happy. He felt protective about her. She sometimes called him her "Bodyguard" in fun. Although they were already together, but now their relation was defined. They were now Boyfriend-Girlfriend. This definition of relationship gave both of them more rights over each other. Now they had to meet everyday, and if not meeting they had to talk everyday, especially at night.  

One day, it was girl's last exam of the final year. She was busy whole day with studying and exam, could not call or meet the boy. As it was her last exam of college, her college friends made a plan to go out and have fun to celebrate. She went out with her friends for a party and had a great time with them. With party and friends, she forgot to call the boy and did not even check her phone. When she checked her phone next morning, there were many missed calls and texts from the boy, who obviously missed her. She immediately called him and apologized. Boy was furious, but understood after some time. Slowly with time the boy's possessiveness increased, since he loved the girl so much that he could not spend a minute without her.

But it was not same with girl, she did not like his possessiveness and decided to end their relationship. She wanted to remain friends, but did not want them to be as Girlfriend-Boyfriend, but boy did not accept. This had hurt him badly, he called the girl many times but she did not take his calls, as he was bent on continuing the relationship. 

How can she leave him, who loved her more than anyone in this world, he thought. He tried a lot to convince her to come back to him. But she had moved on. Finally day came when he decided to end his life. He did not find life worth living without the girl in it and committed suicide.

Now, the boy loved girl more than anyone else in the world, and even ended his life for her. And his love actually not only hurt him, but took his life? so is love dangerous? If anyone is madly in love, we should stop him/her, because it may kill? Why did the "heart-less" girl let him die, for they once loved? 

to be continued...

Free Love 1

Love

Hmm, so we are talking about love. The love has many dictionary translations. The one I am discussing here is the "Romantic Attraction" part of love. It is the feeling of affection for someone. It is also said that this feeling called love brings the fear of loosing the person you love.

Let us take an example of love.-

There was once a person, who loved his wife a lot. One day his wife died. He cried day and night in the memory of his wife. He badly missed her. He was so depressed after her death that he did not like to do anything at all. He kept lying in his bed all day. He did not like to talk to anyone. Sometimes even his weeks went by without talking to anyone. This began to affect his complete life. His family and friends also got affected by his indifferent behavior. His friends and family advised him to get remarried as he was young and had all his life ahead. But he refused to remarry as he still missed his wife.

So what is your opinion about his extreme love for his wife? Is it true love?

to be continued...